In the last few posts, I gave you the backstory on how I came to be a minimalist. I also explained that my husband is not a minimalist. Rather, he is someone who uses minimalism during different seasons of life to benefit him as necessary. And that is ok. We don’t both have to be minimalists for our marriage to work. But in order for me to live the life I want to live, I need to continue down this path.
One of my favorite quotes on minimalism comes from one of my favorite books on the same subject, The More of Less: Finding the Life You Want Under Everything You Own by Joshua Becker. In the book, Becker says:
Minimalism is about what it gives, not what it takes away. It’s the intentional promotion of the things we most value and the removal of anything that distracts us from them.
This intentional promotion of the things we most value is a way of life that brings me happiness. And what I have found when I stray from the minimalist pathway is that the distractions of the world tend to cause me great amounts of stress.
What I Value
When I think about the things I most value, I think about time with my husband and my kids. And I think about time focused on Bible reading and prayer and my relationship with God. I also think about time spent outdoors enjoying nature and the beauty around me. I think about reading books and growing in knowledge on subjects I care about. And I think about exercise and taking care of my body. I also think about the travel I hope to one day experience – I value that possibility.
I don’t value piles of stuff.
I don’t value clutter.
I don’t value wasted money and dust bunnies.
So I continue to remove those things that I don’t value. And I never see minimalism as something that is taking things away from me, rather, minimalism is giving me more. It is giving me greater opportunities to enjoy the people and things I value. It is giving me more peace in my day. And it is giving me the possibility of one day seeing parts of the world I dream of seeing.
And that’s why even though my husband may not be fully committed to this way of life, I continue to pursue it.